D&I: "I don't care if you're black/gay/female, etc." – Why We Should Be More Like Ted Lasso

The phrase "I don't care (about your identity)" is often touted as a marker of open-mindedness. However, this well-intentioned sentiment can inadvertently perpetuate the very issues it aims to combat. The problem lies in the words "don't care." Not caring implies a passive stance, one that dismisses out of hand the unique challenges faced by individuals due to their race, sexuality, or other aspects of their identity.

In Season 3, Episode 9 of Ted Lasso, the character Ted beautifully articulates the importance of "actively caring" as opposed to simply not caring (Watch the clip here https://lnkd.in/eeTQAyPK.

In the episode, Ted provides a textbook example of how leaders should react upon hearing "I don't care." A player comes out as gay at half-time following an incident with a fan. His teammates tell him, "We don't care if you're gay." Rather than letting the comment go, Ted tells Colin, "Actually, we DO care," and goes on to say that he can only imagine the struggles Colin has faced. He apologises that Colin had to go through it alone but assures him that he won't have to go it alone anymore.

Ted explains why the team DO care.

Actively caring involves recognising the unique experiences and challenges that people from diverse backgrounds face. It means creating an inclusive environment where everyone feels seen, heard, and valued for who they are. This proactive approach fosters a culture of empathy and understanding, which is essential for any organisation aiming to be genuinely inclusive.

So, the next time you hear "I don't care," don't walk by. Be more like Ted and make sure your team knows that you do care. It's a small shift in language, but one that can make a world of difference in promoting a more inclusive and caring environment. 🌈🤝

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